All I can is wow! I have had one of the most if not the most eye opening experience in my life!
I actually started writing this on my way home from a 3 day Landmark Forum course. For those who have heard about this or done it, then you must be fully aware of what it feels like. Excitement doesn’t even begin to describe it. I would describe it as a high.
In 3 days I not only learnt so much about myself but also the reasons why I do what I do. Why I live how I live, why I talk like I talk and the list goes on and on. I walked in with some skepticism and came out full of wonder.
The course is designed to help you transform your life. Key word here is transform..not Change! You would ask what is the difference as I did but I got to understand that when I say I am changing, I am in fact only changing my circumstances only to repeat the same thing over and over again. Hence why when you see someone leaving a toxic relationship only to go into another one. It’s basically insanity. Doing the same thing over and over again expecting a different result. Transforming is creating new and different possibilities for your life not based on what you already know. Now I know I have lost some of you on this but it’s okay I didn’t get it at first until the last day of the course!
Let’s say you have a box full of options of what your life could look like. As humans, we look at the box and say these are the only options available to us. Nothing else but what is inside the box! This is the lie.. Who said the box is all there is? What about all the other millions of possibilities outside the box? See what I’m getting at! How amazing is that, we limit ourselves so much purely based on what we know and what we know that we don’t know. What about what we don’t know that we don’t know?
The biggest lesson I took from this course was accepting that everything about my life, is my responsibility. Not what my parents did or didn’t do, not what my partner has or hasn’t done for me. It’s all Me! My decisions have led me to this point in life. If I’m unhappy, I have no one else to look at but the mirror! How empowering and liberating is that? When you stop blaming everyone for what is happening to you and start accepting that you are where you are because of YOU! It’s the most liberating feeling. It’s funny because as soon as this sunk in, the load(s) I had been carrying just lifted. I have been blaming everyone for my life purely to avoid taking responsibility.
I was also challenged on a lot of things especially communication. Part of the forum or rather the process, is to get complete. I have left many relationships incomplete because I didn’t want to bring up old wounds or rock the boat. FYI as humans we have excuses for everything and all just to avoid taking responsibility. The only way to get things complete is by reaching out to the people around you and starting those all important conversations that you put off. I did that with a few of my family and friends and I felt so liberated! I am yet to talk to everyone I wanted to so if I know you and we got issues(or not), expect a phone call from me.
The challenge after having such an experience is facing reality. As I said before, I left the forum on a high only to realise that life was just as I had left it. It’s weird because it felt like I went into the course as one person then came out as another. As coach said (i.e my forum leader) don’t expect other people to see how life how you see it just because you have transformed and we should always expect challenges as that is life. With that said my challenges came like a week after and boy weren’t they just….sigh.. The old me definitely wanted to handle things how I have always handled things but the new me is/was like nah bruv! Sort it out! This I must say is the biggest challenge for me. Knowing that I should react or act differently but because it’s something I have never done before, it is absolutely terrifying. This is when you actually start to live. Being present is about feeling, accepting the moment you are in regardless of how bad or good it is. What I love about what I learnt is that once you know you should be acting differently,it sticks with you forever! As Bishop T.D. Jakes always says in his sermons, “New heights,new devils!”
I’m so inspired to know that I can create a life that I want. I need to stop making excuses and just go for it. If I fail, so what? I can just get back up and keep going.
We only have one life……This is it! There will be no other better day than what it is right now! I want to encourage you guys to stop living for the future and holding on to the past. Create the present that you want and your future will take care of itself. Be Present!
“Life is a journey, not a destination.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson
Expect a lot of this kind of talk from me. There’s a lot I could share on here but I think you’d have to do the course for yourself to fully understand what I mean. We as humans all have similar issues as I came to realise but they are unique to everyone. Its how we handle them that sets us apart!
Have a blessed week guys.